Archive for January, 2014

The Joys of Public Parenting…

January 30th, 2014

First week of classes down, 15 to go and a baby coming somewhere in the middle!  Last class before graduation…  then an internship, graduation and farewell to FIT!  As long as I can get the majority of the senior collection done before this baby decides to grace us with his or her presence, we’ll be […]


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First week of classes down, 15 to go and a baby coming somewhere in the middle!  Last class before graduation…  then an internship, graduation and farewell to FIT!  As long as I can get the majority of the senior collection done before this baby decides to grace us with his or her presence, we’ll be ok…  And so far in the one week of classes I’ve had, I’ve already gotten flak about the impossibleness and inappropriateness of taking a class that will continue after the baby is born and how it’s just not feasible for me to do this…  Hmmm, thank you for your opinion?

And then today someone told me I needed to put Piper down because I was harming the baby by holding her, and then proceeded to shake her finger at me and say tsk tsk and look at me with anticipation/disdain waiting for me to put Piper down (I didn’t, it was a bit of a staring contest…).  Then, a few minutes later when Piper was crying as we were trying to get out of the store, she walked over and picked her up, spun her around and made her smile, then looked at me and said, “see, that’s how it’s done”.  What??  First of all, please don’t tell me how to parent, second, don’t pick up my child, I don’t know you… and third, if your way of calming a crying baby down is to pick them up and spin them around, don’t tell me I can’t carry my child, and then go on to tell me “see, this is how it’s done”!  Long day, long week…  But here we go!

I’m really excited for this class, and as challenging as it will be to finish up the final weeks with a newborn, I can’t imagine how much harder it would be to take it a year from now when it’s offered again and I have an almost one year old and a two year old…  That’s what seems on the impossible side to me!

I started writing  (about 4 hours ago now, before life, and babies, and crazy ladies at the store got in the way) with one purpose in mind and the whole point of the post has changed after my afternoon.  I needed a little encouragement and time to zone out and re-focus, so currently I’m sitting outside our house in the driver’s seat while Piper sleeps in the back of the car so I can have a few minutes to finish before waking her up to take her inside.  The things moms do…

One of my biggest frustrations with living in New York is that everyone seems to think that because you’re out in public in the big city with your baby, that it’s kind of like it’s their baby too…  There are absolutely no boundaries, and nothing goes unsaid.  I can’t begin to describe the amount of parenting advice I’ve gotten from the “crazies” around me.  And some of the stories I’ve heard from my friends, stuff you wouldn’t even believe unless you were there.

So this is to you, moms, especially NYC moms, who manage to stay sane day after day, and hold on to your own beliefs, and ideals, and dreams for your children.  I respect you, and I have so much gratitude for what you do.  It’s encouraging to see you survive and come out on the other side with you and your children still intact, and knowing they didn’t get carried away by the crazy sales lady in T.J. Maxx.  Maybe we’ll make it too…

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Dear Brides and Wives: It’s Not The Things

January 8th, 2014

It’s not the things that matter, aka- what if everything from your registry was suddenly gone?  We woke up Saturday morning to a leak coming from our roof, through our attic and dropping into our entryway.  By the time we went to bed Sunday evening we had cracks in the roof, a drainpipe leaking into […]


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It’s not the things that matter, aka- what if everything from your registry was suddenly gone?  We woke up Saturday morning to a leak coming from our roof, through our attic and dropping into our entryway.  By the time we went to bed Sunday evening we had cracks in the roof, a drainpipe leaking into our attic, and a living room ceiling that had to be completely replaced, AND it was still raining…

It makes you think, and really focus on the things that matter…

I was the bride who was obsessed with her registry.  I checked it all the time, so excited to see what had been purchased, and unable to wait for the shower or the pile of gifts waiting when we get back from our honeymoon.  I knew what had been purchased, the only mystery was who bought us what.  The registry was a huge defining point of what getting married meant for me.  And I’ve realized in the last 3 years of marriage, that it really shouldn’t matter at all.  Those are the things that people are blessing you with as you start your new life together, and they are definitely such a blessing, but the point of the whole day is WHO you’re marrying, and the life you’re starting together, not WHAT you’re getting and which one of the guests showed up at the reception without a gift.

There are a lot of things in this life I hold precious, and a number of them are things from my registry and things we’ve purchased, but if I had lost any of them in the ceiling downpour, we would have been ok.  We’ve broken plates and glasses over the years (I think we have 4 left out of the original 16 glasses… oops!  We’ve switched to mason jars since they tend to not shatter when they hit the floor!)  But what I know I can’t lose or break is the strength of my husband’s love, and the joy I have every time I see my daughter, and the fact that the home we’ve created together isn’t defined by or limited to the 4 walls of our house, but by the family we are that live in it.  Those aren’t things that were on our registry 3 years ago, but they were the real things that mattered on our wedding day.

Thankfully nothing was damaged beyond the ceiling and a pile of old notebooks that I’d been looking for an excuse to get rid of anyway.  The roof was fixed yesterday morning, and we’re slowly working our way back to having the house in order again with no buckets lying around to catch drops and waterfalls here and there.  And yes, I do still have momentary moments of terror over losing everything in a fire or other catastrophe… But none of that really matters, because wherever my family is, there I’m home.

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To You Who Inspire Me

January 2nd, 2014

Happy 2014!  My facebook news feed has been filled with peoples resolutions for the year and memories from 2013, and I love reading them, but for the moment I thought I’d take a different direction with my first post of the new year.  I wanted to take a chance to sit down and thank the […]


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Happy 2014!  My facebook news feed has been filled with peoples resolutions for the year and memories from 2013, and I love reading them, but for the moment I thought I’d take a different direction with my first post of the new year.  I wanted to take a chance to sit down and thank the women in my life who have inspired me and shaped my life the most over the past year.  So many of my memories are centered around them, and my list of things to change in the coming year has been inspired by them, so before I share any of those things with you, I thought I’d share the women, and take a minute to honor them.

To my Mom: For those of you thinking, “oh, a list of women in her life, obviously she has to put her mom there otherwise she’d look a bit ungrateful…”, it’s so not true.  (Well, obviously yes I would look a bit ungrateful), but she’s here because she truly is one of my closest friends.  She’s still the first person I call when I have something exciting to share, or a question about a recipe, or I’ve forgotten for the millionth time what the correct proportions of milk and lemon are to make buttermilk, or I need a relative’s address that I should have written down on something besides the envelope I was sending all the other times I’ve asked for that same address, or when I just want to hear how someone’s day is going and have an adult conversation for 5 minutes.  (Dear mom, I finally started an address book last week!  But no, still haven’t written down the buttermilk thing anywhere…)  She has shaped me into the mother I am now, and she has taught me how to be the wife that I am, I couldn’t do any of this without her.  We met halfway between Virginia and New York yesterday for lunch, and to drop my sisters off who spent New Years with us up here, and I sincerely wish the drive was short enough to do it more often.  Thank you for everything.

To Rachelle: You are like a sister to me, I wish you had lived with us longer than just this summer…  I can’t put words around how much I appreciate all the help and hard work and heart-work that you put into helping me figure out The Ivan Project this summer.  I lived with Rachelle’s family in France the year I met my husband, and it was so much fun to have a chance to exchange and have her live with us for a while.  I’m so honored and inspired by her heart for God, and how she orders her life to keep Him as a priority.  I’ve learned so much from you over this past year, and can’t wait to see you again!

To Sara:  I can’t imagine life without being a 10 minute walk from your house.  You helped get Piper safely into our lives 14 months ago, and you’ve helped me keep her safe and healthy since then.  You and your family have become our family and we miss you when you’re gone- come back soon!!  Sara is our doula and baby guru and the first person who placed Piper into Guillaume’s arms.  And she’s so much fun to split a bottle of wine with and talk for hours!  (to anyone reading this who’s pregnant or having more babies in the future- I can only wish you have someone like Sara at your birth and in your life, and if you live close to me, I’m willing to share!)

To my oldest friend, and the newly Mrs. Schmoyer:  I have been so blessed by our friendship throughout the years, and I was so blessed to be your bridesmaid this year, I loved keeping up with your whirlwind of creativity and all things wedding, and I truly wish I could have been more available and supportive pre-wedding, but since I don’t think you wanted Piper’s fingerprints decorating all of your wedding accessories…  I love the business you’ve created over the past few months, and I can’t wait to watch all of your successes!  You’ve inspired me with your dedication, and your decision to jump forward and chase your dreams.  I’m so happy for you and your marriage and your business, it’s been so fun to watch!  I’m working on a dress right now and I think we should do a shoot together this spring!  For all you ladies out there getting married one day: Katherine Schmoyer and Dear Sweetheart Events is the person to call.

To Piper: My adorable daughter who makes me smile and laugh and catch my breath every day, I can’t imagine life without you.  (Well, it would be much calmer and quieter and I could probably get more schoolwork done and keep a cleaner house, so maybe I can imagine some parts of it, but I don’t want to!)  I wouldn’t trade any of that for you.  Thank you for smiling and laughing every time I walk into a room, and calling Momma from the backseat of the car just to check, and for the nap you’re taking right now!

And to Hannah, from 1 Samuel 1:  You have been my motivation through pregnancy with Piper, and with this baby, and you have helped me see the things that truly matter when raising a child.  “For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him.  Therefore I have lent him to the Lord.  As long as he lives, he is lent to the Lord.”