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Custom vs Ready-to-Wear

March 5th, 2014

Custom or Ready-to-wear?  “homemade” or “over-the-counter”…  Which one to pick?  Better yet, why even consider a custom dress when there’s so many lovely bridal boutiques?  First of all, let’s dispel the thought of “homemade”.  That’s not what custom means.  Custom is an experience, it’s a dress that’s designed, hand-crafted, and fit specifically to you, your […]

 

Custom or Ready-to-wear?  “homemade” or “over-the-counter”…  Which one to pick?  Better yet, why even consider a custom dress when there’s so many lovely bridal boutiques?  First of all, let’s dispel the thought of “homemade”.  That’s not what custom means.  Custom is an experience, it’s a dress that’s designed, hand-crafted, and fit specifically to you, your body, and your personality.  It’s not something whipped up by your grandma; it’s a lovely, luxurious, unique experience.  Custom means someone taking the time to get to know you, to know what kind of a bride you are, what kind of a girl you are, and what kind of a dreamer you are.  And then creating something that perfectly describes who you are and what you’ve been searching for this whole time.  A custom dress is a piece that’s just for you, something that no one else will wear, or has worn.  It’s one of a kind, and it’s all yours.

I would love to get to know you, to design a gown for you that meets everything you’ve been searching for.  This is your opportunity to take all the little details from all the different dresses you’ve loved and figure out how to put them all into one.  To take each and every dress that you said I love this, but I wish it didn’t have this, or I’m so happy with this, if only it had this too… and make it actually a possibility!  This is what I love about working with brides; listening to them share all these little details with me and then saying yes, we can totally do that.  Their eyes light up with excitement!  I love what I get to do, and the beautiful ladies I get to work with, it’s such a pleasure!

So, let me take a minute (before I bubble over in excitement) and share our special March project with you!  Drumroll please…  This month, KEBridal will be searching for one very special bride, and offering her a FREE custom gown, with a $200 fabric credit towards the cost of supplies!  Know someone who needs that dress?  Someone who can’t afford the dress of their dreams, someone who deserves to shine on their special day?  Get ready to enter them into our contest, starting tomorrow through the end of March!  All the details to come tomorrow, including how YOU too can win a prize for sharing, or if your bride is chosen!  So friends, welcome to March and #makeheradress!  We couldn’t be more excited to be doing this!

xoxo

 

((photo credit: Joe Powers|Richmond Photographics))

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The Don’t List (And the Bride Wore White part 3 cont.)

March 4th, 2014

Good Morning Lovelies, I still can’t believe it’s March already!  We celebrated the new month this past weekend with a “just because we’re having a baby this month or next date” and went ice skating just the two of us.  Oh man is it harder when you’re 8 months prego…  (still can’t decide where it […]

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Good Morning Lovelies,

I still can’t believe it’s March already!  We celebrated the new month this past weekend with a “just because we’re having a baby this month or next date” and went ice skating just the two of us.  Oh man is it harder when you’re 8 months prego…  (still can’t decide where it compared though to climbing a mountain in Alaska when I was pregnant with Piper…)  I’m still feeling some of the sore, but it was a wonderful day!  I’m spending the next two days wrapping up the wedding dress mini-series that I started in February, and using it to announce our oh so exciting March project!  Come back tomorrow to find out!!

Saturday I shared my “non-negotiables” for wedding dresses, and recommended that you create your own to supplement it, according to what you’ve always dreamed and planned for yourself.  Today is a short list of “don’ts” to consider when figuring out how to make your dress dreams a reality, and a couple bloopers to go along with it!

So here we go,

Don’t wear white underwear if your dress is thin or slightly see through.  Test it out by letting a light shine behind you, can you see the silhouette of your legs?  I photographed a wedding once and the brides dress was a thin, flowy dress, and her underwear was white, and even in the dark, you could see the white lines.  Wear nude panties!  Or a slip…  Your photographer will thank you later for the lack of editing you caused them!  I know it’s your wedding day, and tradition is to wear white, (or maybe even blue panties!) but please please please test them out with your dress first.  White stands out against skin colors, whereas nude will blend in perfectly and you’ll never know they’re there.

 

 

Don’t take all the advice you hear, but do listen to some of it…  Plan you’re shopping trip wisely, don’t bring along any and everyone who wants to go.  Take the ladies whose opinion you truly value and want to hear.  People who you know will be honest, and incredibly supportive at the same time.

Don’t forget to consider silhouette and body shape when falling in love with dresses and making your choice.  Not every dress was designed for every body, and you will be much more comfortable in a dress that truly flatters your figure than something that you love but doesn’t quite work for you.  (This also goes for picking out bridesmaid dresses…  If you have maids of all shapes and sizes, consider picking various dresses instead of forcing them all into one.  It’s important that they feel comfortable and beautiful too.  It’ll make your day so much more pleasant, it’ll make your pictures so much happier, and they’ll love you a lot more for it.  One wedding I photographed years ago consisted of a very tall bride, and 7 or 8 tall and larger bridesmaids.  And they all wore matching dresses (yes, the bridesmaids dresses matched the brides, just in a different color).  They were all poofy dresses, and they made each beautiful lady look double her size suddenly…  So please promise me that you’ll really think when you make this decision!  For you and your ladies…)

Don’t forget to pay attention to weather when dress dreaming.  Is it an outdoor wedding in the heat of summer?  Will your dress show sweat marks??  And not just underarm ones…  wedding dresses tend to be so tight and fitted at the waist and back (because they’re trying to make you look as slender as possible) that if you’re getting married outside in the heat, you also tend to drip sweat down your spine.  Trust me, I did!  My dress didn’t show a thing, but I could sure feel it… it was 90 degrees out there and it was a looong ceremony!

Don’t force yourself to get something in a rush, if you don’t love it, walk away and keep dreaming.  Or keep thinking and go back for it later.  I bought my dress a bit spur of the moment, and while I don’t regret it because I grew to absolutely love my dress, I didn’t have that I-know-this-is-the-one feeling when I bought it, and I really believe that that’s what you should feel.  You should be excited, ecstatic, and completely overjoyed when you decide that that’s the one you’re going to wear when you marry the love of your life.

Don’t take shortcuts.  Make your list of non-negotiables, dreams, and loves, and figure out which ones you’re sticking with and where your perfect dress fits into that.

And last but not least, DO have a lovely time, and make sure you feel like a princess.

xoxo

 

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And the Bride Wore White Part 3: Your Wedding Dress List!

March 1st, 2014

So excited to keep talking about the search for your perfect wedding dress!  Part 3 is  a little friendly advice, some stories to laugh at, and mistakes to learn from that I bet some of those brides didn’t even realize they made… oops! As you dream about your dress, you should create a list of […]

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So excited to keep talking about the search for your perfect wedding dress!  Part 3 is  a little friendly advice, some stories to laugh at, and mistakes to learn from that I bet some of those brides didn’t even realize they made… oops!

As you dream about your dress, you should create a list of “non-negotiables” of the things you want.  These are the things that matter to you, that you don’t want your mother-in-law or your best friend’s sister talking you out of on your big shopping day!  This is YOUR dress, it’s YOUR princess day, and YOU’RE the one that has to feel beautiful and happy in it.  Not them!  And yes, it’s ok if you do change your mind on some of these details once you start to actually try dresses on, but you still need to know what they are and really know what your heart is looking for.

So let’s chat for a minute, besides your non-negotiables with all the specific little special dress details you want- long or short, white or ivory, lace or no, strapless or long sleeves… Here’s my list of what I think your wedding dress absolutely should be:

Your wedding dress should:

1. Make you feel beautiful

2. Make you feel comfortable

3. Fit

4. Fit your personality

5. Fit your budget

No, I’m not going to tell you your dress should be this specific detail or that, that’s up to YOU to decide!  But after working and chatting with and watching countless brides at countless weddings, those are the 5 things that have become MY non-negotiables!

Obviously your dress should make you feel beautiful, you won’t question that one.  But comfortable?  YES!  This is the day in your life where you will be most photographed, most scrutinized, and you will create memories that you want to last forever.  When you’re not comfortable in what you’re wearing, it shows!  It shows on camera, it shows to the people watching you, believe me, it shows!

On to the next one: Fit!  Yes, your dress needs to fit.  I know this may sound obvious, and strange to put as a priority on the list, but seriously, make sure your dress fits!  Don’t buy a size small because you think you’ll lose the weight to fit it, be happy and proud of your beautiful self!  Don’t buy something too tight that you can’t breathe in, or something too tight so it rides up and won’t stay in place.  You don’t want to be pulling your dress down or up all day long.  Fit and comfort, so so important!  And honestly, I truly believe that what fits you best and what you’re most comfortable in, is also what you’ll be most beautiful in!

Ok, so “Fit your personality”.  What?  This is one that my husband inspired me to put on the list.  It happens so often that the bride gets ready for her big day, and walks down the aisle, and when you see her for the first time she doesn’t look like herself anymore.  She’s wearing so much makeup, and her hair is so tight or so full of hairspray… you know what I mean right?  One of my husband’s biggest requests for our wedding day was that he still wanted me to look like ME.  He was talking about hair, makeup, face stuff etc., but I think it extends to the dress as well.  Your dress should represent the you that he fell in love with.  The you that all your friends know.  Be yourself, don’t try to be somebody else, or reinvent yourself for one day, after all he’s marrying YOU!!  Again, this fits in with the whole “be comfortable” thing!

And last but not least, Fit your budget!  Don’t blow out your budget on your dress, please!  (Just a personal opinion, I’ll let you argue with me on this one more than the others…!)  Buy a dress you absolutely love, but don’t go broke.  In the end, it may be the most special day of your life for a long time, but it’s also just one day, you have your entire marriage ahead of you, and let me argue that in whole, your marriage will be so much more special than just your wedding!  You should love your dress, and be ridiculously happy in a dress that makes you feel beautiful (and comfortable, and fits, etc…) but know your limits and know how to work with them.

Whew this post got long fast!  We’ll stop it here for now, and finish on Tuesday (because Monday is going to be for Mama’s again!) with a couple blooper stories, and a small list of “don’ts” before we get into my favorite question, Custom vs. Off-the-Rack”! Obviously this “February” mini-series is being pushed into the first week of March, but I’m actually a bit excited about that, because the final chapter of it pushes us into our super exciting March promotion… You’ll have to check back for it real soon, I promise it’s going to be good!

xoxo

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Tradition?

February 16th, 2014

And The Bride Wore White part 2!  Our February mini-series on picking your perfect wedding dress! “And the bride wore white”.  It’s a traditional phrase; you’ve heard it before a million times.  But why did she wear white?  Do you have to wear white?  What should your wedding dress mean?? Traditionally, a wedding represents a lifelong […]

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And The Bride Wore White part 2!  Our February mini-series on picking your perfect wedding dress!

“And the bride wore white”.  It’s a traditional phrase; you’ve heard it before a million times.  But why did she wear white?  Do you have to wear white?  What should your wedding dress mean??

Traditionally, a wedding represents a lifelong commitment and covenant between two people, who are making a promise to each other, in sickness and in health, in all times good and bad, to push through and stick it out.  No if’s, and’s, or but’s, divorce is not an option.  And traditionally white represents purity; a bride who is a virgin and a couple who have been waiting for each other.  But does this even exist in today’s culture?

I’ve struggled a lot with this post (as in starting it over and over again) trying to figure out what to say.  I have personal opinions and beliefs, and I’m not here to push those on you, but I would love to share a little more of my story with you, because I think it definitely defined some of what my dress meant to me, and I’d love to journey with you as you figure out what you want your wedding dress to mean to you.

For us, our wedding represented all of those things I listed above.  It was a promise, a commitment, and a decision.  And yes, I was still a virgin when I married my husband.  It was one of the hardest things I’ve done, and also one of the most rewarding, and I think it has had an extraordinary impact on our marriage.   But our culture today has defined marriage as something very different, almost like a toy to be played with, instead of something precious to be treasured, and that’s what I want to show my brides.  That each and every one of them is a treasure, and a precious jewel, and they deserve to be treated like that.  And they deserve to treat themselves like that.  Marriage, real and true committed marriage, is an extraordinary experience.  Someone who loves you for who you are, and someone who you’re not trying to constantly prove yourself to every waking minute is an amazing feeling.  And it’s all worth the wait to find that person.

What you want your wedding to mean, and your wedding dress to symbolize for you is a journey you have to wander down yourself, I can’t give you those answers.  But I would love to walk with you down that road and help you discover and dream.  Should you wear your grandmother’s or your mom’s dress?  Maybe, maybe not.  Should you wear white?  Absolutely, if that’s the color you want to wear.  It’s your wedding dress, and you have to find its meaning for yourself.  Go through your box of clippings and your pinterest page, sit there and daydream about all your 5 year old princess memories, and take a minute to sit back, relax, and search your heart for what you’re really looking for.

“You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.”  Song of Solomon 4:9  You are a beautiful, captivating woman, who should be loved and treasured, and feel like a princess in the dress of your dreams.  You decide what it means to you.

 

Next week, Part 3: getting into the shopping experience, all the little details, and what your must-haves on your dress list are! A little less serious, a little more fun, but still touching on everything close to my heart; YOU, my brides and friends, and making sure your day is perfect!

xoxo

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And The Bride Wore White

February 7th, 2014

Or did she?!  A February mini-series all about buying the perfect wedding dress! There’s a story behind every wedding dress.  Who did you shop with?  Was it originally your great grand mother’s dress?  Did you buy the last one at a sample sale and have to fight tooth and nail with another bride for it?  […]

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Or did she?!  A February mini-series all about buying the perfect wedding dress!

There’s a story behind every wedding dress.  Who did you shop with?  Was it originally your great grand mother’s dress?  Did you buy the last one at a sample sale and have to fight tooth and nail with another bride for it?  Did it fit perfectly from the first minute, or did you fall in love with it even though it needed work?  Did you order it and the wrong one was delivered?  Yes, I know brides who all of these situations apply to…

There are so many hopes and dreams and questions that go into the search for the perfect dress, and I’ve been so looking forward to getting a chance to chat about it this month!  Everything from silhouette to color to who to shop with and who to listen to, and one of my favorites, off-the-rack or custom just for you?  Please ask any questions along the way you can think of, I’ll be so happy to answer each and every one!

I thought I’d start with my story, (since it never grows old talking about your own wedding!), and then we’ll take it from there!  No, I didn’t make my own wedding dress… (gasp?).  I had planned to all along, I had a book full of sketches, I knew what fabric I was looking for, I was all set.  And then…  A month after Guillaume proposed, I drove up to NYC for the weekend to visit him, and planned to fabric shop and dress shop (to try on various silhouettes and make sure I knew exactly what I wanted) while he was at work.  I had googled and made my list and knew what stores I wanted to venture in to, and off I was on my dress day.  I am a sincere lover of all things thrift and antique, I can lose myself for hours in a good shop, so not surprising the first place on my list was an Upper East Side designer consignment shop that used to be known for their bridal department.  I was shopping on my own, because remember, the plan was to NOT buy a dress… oops!  In the upstairs of the shop was a small bridal section with 20 or so dresses, a small curtain to change behind and a 3 way mirror with a small pedestal to stand on.  The lady, who I honestly have to say was the worst sales lady you could ever hope to encounter in the world of bridal (but I guess we should cut her a little slack, it was after all a thrift store bridal experience…) showed me around and said, “You’re only allowed to try on a maximum of five dresses, let me know when you’re ready.”  Seriously??  Oh well.  I was lucky, because I think there were only maybe 3 in my size that I liked, one that I loved.  And, the best part, it was still brand new with the tags!!  And it was by a bridal designer that I had always loved as a little girl, so it seriously felt like my special little moment.  I tried it on, and it laced up the back, so the lady said, “this is a lot of lacing, I’m not going to bother doing every hole, just one every three.”  Again, seriously??  Either way, I loved it, and I spent a really long time standing in front of the mirror considering my options.  Enough time that she got antsy and I had to ask if I could have a minute in the dressing room alone without her staring over my shoulder.  So I called up my MOH back in Va and she quickly googled the designer and style number trying to find the dress online so I could get her opinion (and find out the original price of the dress!)  and together we decided that we did love it, it was definitely the one.  Not to be dissuaded however from my hopes of making my dress, I turned it down at first and decided to go to the next store on my list to keep trying options on.  And within an hour I knew that that was a mistake and I ran back to the first store as fast as I could get there, terrified the whole time that some other bride would take it before I could get back!  It did take me a little while to get over the fact that I wasn’t making my dress like I had always planned, but the moment I put it on on our wedding day I had absolutely no regrets, and wouldn’t have wished things any other way.

That little shop on the Upper East Side is still there, and when I pass by it every once in a while I get a little smile and happy memories flash by.  They have since closed down their bridal department, and I was one of the last lucky ones to walk out of their doors with literally my dream in my hands.

Oh, and my big blooper of the day:  Somehow I didn’t know you had to have an appointment when trying on bridal gowns at real bridal salons…  Oops!  The second store I went to looked at me like I was insane when I walked in the door.  Here’s a bride all alone, no maids or mom tagging along, no appointment, and no clue.  It makes sense now, and it probably would have made sense then if I had thought a little in advance, but I guess the excitement and the romance sometimes take half your brain cells away.  (And pregnancy takes away the other half now…)

That’s just the dress part of the story, the rest of the weekend brought us our wedding rings, our save the date picture, and the start of many more memories.  Brides, what are your dress stories?!  What are your dress dreams?  I can’t wait to hear, and I can’t wait to share the next part of the mini-series- Your Grandma’s Dress: family traditions, family pressures, and what your dress means to you.

xoxo

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